Totalimmortal

and I will be your shoulder to cry on. ! wooo darktube! lol I wish... =D=D -Total

mom, don't worry, about the rambling, we're here for you. good way to vent. about the bullies. bullies are definitely problems. if a child feels bullied, they will become socially inept, especially in a situation where there is predisposition to not fully understand social cues, such as a child with aspergers. I was bullied as a kid (a big LOL there for everyone... yes, I was a nerd and a geek... and still am... and everyone saw it) so I know where this will lead. it definitely leads for a rough transition from middle school to high school. after doing everything THE WRONG WAY, here are a few of my anti-bully suggestions. (I hope they work). 1) instruments. if your son wants to learn an instrument (I know it will be hard, but it's a gratifying experience in the long run) I think that is a good way to escape from troubles at school. even if he doesnt want to or cant learn an instrument, get him interested in music. music is a very very important and easy way to relax. after stressful situations at work, I just turn on some radio, and enjoy. its a good way to just let the bad things roll off your back. 2) any type of athletic activity. this is the most multi-purpose self bettering idea that I have =D. I suggest some form of Karate. (yes, I took it for like a year when I was 6 and then quit... no motivation. now I'm starting up again in a month and a half, and have the same sensei as I did 13 years ago). it teaches self-discipline, and increases self-confidence. my cousin with aspergers has very similar social issues as I'm sure your son is experiencing. in karate, he met quite a few friends, and found a great role model in his sensei. I think it's important to have a role model outside of your parents. 3) mom, DO NOT WORRY! things will be fine. your son already seems to be a computer whiz, so maybe set up a way for him to learn a programming language? anything constructive. I know times are tough in middle school and high school, especially with aspergers, but the future is bright for the lad. have you talked to the parents of the lass since the incident? I think that if you can find a way to get them on the same page as you, I think they would see where you are coming from. -Total the problem with this myles, is that I don't think he was maliciously trying to have a little fun or anything. my cousin has aspergers, and I have a couple people that I encounter on a fairly regular basis (I'd like to consider them friends) with aspergers as well, and they tend to act on their impulses with no reasoning behind it. I agree with you, but I think this situation was a little out of the ordinary, considering genenut's son has aspergers. I wouldn't consider his behavior naughty, I would consider it impulsive. the lack of social adeptness in many aspergers sufferer's lives make it difficult for them to grasp what's right and wrong, naughty and nice, and why certain actions are unacceptable. if I am correct, the boy either felt guilty about his actions directly after them, or still doesn't grasp WHY his actions were unacceptable, he only knows that they ARE unacceptable. that seems to be a common trend in people who suffer from aspergers. -Total.

AHHH I MISSED IT!! it was the me and the gf's 6 month lol... went to the star wars exhibit at the franklin institute... but that's not important... HAPPY BIRTHDAY GOGO! congrats to another year, enjoy it while you can, you only get so many! -Total

I understand what you mean erling... I do think it would take some resources, but it'd definitely be cool. our own little ustube. lol. hmmmm it'd be sweet, and we could possibly stream vids into the wiki using it... we'd have all of our cool stuff 'in-house'! -Total

at least it'll be environmentally friendly! -Total

first off... really? tell the school officials to get real. back in my day... (yes I said it...) back about 5-8 years ago... I gave my parents a lot of troubles and issues with suspensions and what-not. I turned out ok (I think ). but to get suspended for doing something as harmless as exposing a girl's back? I understand that there should be some kind of school action... but seriously? a 2 day suspension. let me put things in perspective. in 5th grade, I got shoved into a wall, some little hillbilly kid who didn't like italians was shouting "you (effin) WOP" and he was shovin me and messin with me. I ignored it at first, but it got on my nerves, and I turned around and punched him in the nose. he didn't actually throw any punches, just some little shoves, so yes, I definitely started (and finished) the actual 'fight'. I got suspended. for 1 day. 1 day suspension, for breaking some punk's nose, (interestingly enough, his ears were bleeding too... never figured out why). his mom escorted him around school for the next week to make sure I didn't go near him. 1 day suspension. for that. more recent suspension: my senior year in high school... some little basketball star at our school (a boarding school, he lived on my dorm) thought he was big and tough and wanted to throw down. he took a swing at me, I threw one back. punched the door above his head, broke some fingers, fractured a couple knuckles, shattered one (which never has and never will heal right). he started the fight, threw first, and he made the only contact (he shoved me, and I just turned and walked away, figuring it wasn't worth getting in trouble over)... well, totalman gets suspended for 3 weeks. little basketball diva... had to talk to the disciplinary committee, and didn't even get a letter sent home to his folks. guess I shoulda played basketball too... 3 weeks. I guess times are changing, because honestly, I don't think that that kind of 'offense' which might I add, has no legal ramifications ('offensive touching? bah') shouldn't be a 2 day suspension... now that I'm done talking about suspensions... what to do with the youngin': talk to him. make sure he knows WHY what he did was wrong. he knows WHAT he did was wrong, but WHY is the important lesson. also, I think forcing him to rune farm for 12 hours on end would be another good way to strike back "FARM BOY, FARM!" but seriously, I also think having him sit down with the girl's father and have him apologize for what he did and explain his actions would be a responsible thing to do. have the boy apologize to the girl IN FRONT of her parents. things will be awkward, sure, but the parents will see that you are doing your job as a parent, and that the boy is just that, a teenager, learning from his mistakes. honestly, its probably a good thing that it happened, because there is much to learn about incidents like this. its a good way to learn (without going to jail), it gives time to reflect, and the guilt that builds up inside will make him think twice about ever doing something like that again. ^^just a few suggestions to help ease the embarrassment. no worries mom, things will be fine, it definitely doesn't reflect on you as a parent (and will actually reflect positively on you as a parent if people see a change in the young man.) (ps, yes I said it, young man. that's what teenagers are becoming, thats what they should be treated like. they have responsibilities. everyone wants to be mature, they should act mature.) Good luck mom! -Total

wow. and I thought the baby thing was good... lol -Totatl

wow -Total

lol =D=D -Total

that is one of the funniest sets of pictures of all time. thank you very much yarasa. and gene, is there an appropriate way to taser a baby? -Total

happy birthday brother! you only turn 21 once, so make it a fun one! -Total

New Haven, CT -Total

why hola from total -Total

feliz cumpleanos bro! -Total

welcome to the club... whenever I don't feel like going somewhere (ie work, school, anywhere) I always manage to legitimately feel sick. is that wrong? like my mind convinces my body to feel like crap so I dont have to go anywhere... ahh, the joys of life... work, school, SACRED, Call of Duty, work work and work. -Total

if you want you can send me the guitar track and I can try and record drums for it in an audacity file and send it back to you... that works for drums right? lol -Total

Impressive work. gonna be a very very nice little file there. -Total

buy a midget and have it pay rent? jk... I think you can prolly find a roomie. just put out an add in the local periodicals? -Total

I had a similar problem, in which my last name is hyphenated, but only on my birth certificate. on my drivers license, my "first last name" is actually considered a middle name. but thats beside the point, I think you should go by whatever your driver's license says, or social security (living in the USA?)... those may be your best bets. -Total

prison sex SHOULD scare everyone... but thats a topic for another place and time... HOW IS EVERYONE DOING?!!! -Total

don't drop the soap stubbie. thank god you weren't in prison =P -Total

it easy to -Total

ConGratz brethren! -Total

=D=D another successful day in Total's career! 5 car stops in 45 mins, yielding 2 drivers with no licenses, 2 wanted people, and 1 kid going 27 mph over the limit. after that, stopped another car for aftermarket window tint, because the driver was 10-29P (had a warrant)... after his arrest, Totalman found 8 grams of marijuana, a bunch of spent roaches, 13 baggies (paraphanelia), 5 beers, and an open jagermeister... the driver (19 years old) blew almost twice the legal limit on his breathalyzer... guess who had a bad day? ->him... but yes, I feel good now, for nabbing a total of 3 dui's today, 23 total traffic stops yielding 26 traffic arrests, the abovementioned drugs have been confiscated, and a couple offenders are back in jail. anyone else feel a bit safer? =D=D.ahhh, fun friday nights. take care all! -Total